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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/Imighthavegonetoofar on 2023-10-06 22:33:50.

I’ve (19F) never been in a relationship. That’s not to say I haven’t had the opportunity, but I’ve frankly rejected everyone who tried because they didn’t meet my standards.

So far, I only have three: my man can’t be five years older than me, smoke any substances, or live far away.

99% of the guys that talk to me are significantly older than me. Of the two that managed to be around my age, one tried to pick me up by asking me for a cigarette and made it clear I was exotic to him. The other lived too far away, which is a shame cause he was an engineer. Unfortunately, he didn’t take no for an answer and crossed boundaries which made me snap and killed all his chances.

Considering most of my options are significantly older than me, should I start reconsidering some of my standards? I’ve also noticed a lot of people seem to smoke too. I’m at a loss.