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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/distorted-laughter on 2023-10-08 00:35:47.

I was raised by a single mother so my parents never married but they lived together very briefly when I was a baby. Now I find that sharing this information with certain men weeds out the absolute worst types of men out there. Example #1 back in April I was seeing this man and of course after a few dates he asked what my family life was like growing up. I told him I was raised by a single mother and my dad used to abuse her physically and mentally so I’m glad she got away from him. He jokingly said “so your mom stayed with him knowing that he was beating the crap out of her? She must have liked getting beaten around then.” I was mortified and genuinely scared that he said this after I shared something so personal with him. Cut all contact afterwards. Example # 2 This guy I met back in mid September who I found out had a child and had a rocky relationship with her mother. This asshole complained about her A LOT and when I was sympathetic towards her when he would mention her I knew it made him mad. He also had a problem with calling women c**ts. And for an educated person who went to nice schools and had a good job I was just disgusted when he let that side out. I feel awful that I even dated those guys however briefly but the fact that they felt this was about single mothers just crushed me. I now realize I was unconsciously taking out the trash when I mentioned those things to them but how can people still be so heartless?