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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/sunshineluvvv on 2023-10-08 03:31:24.

Hello. For context: My partner and I live together and we’ve been together for 3 years.

My partner practices martial arts so he goes out on weekdays to BJJ and Karate classes. I’ve always had trouble sticking to a routine and staying motivated. I also have a history of anxiety. He knows this.

Lately I’ve gotten out of an anxiety crisis and I’ve decided enough is enough. I’ve been going to the gym at 7am, waking up at 6. Working out from 7am to 9am, weightlifting and doing some cardio. I’ve also paid weekly massages to chill out and relax. Sometimes I go out for a coffee by myself and I’m really enjoying my alone time. This has been helpful for controlling my anxiety attacks. I feel happier now.

We got into a fight 2 days ago because he says I’m going out too much and that I don’t spend too much time home as before. I told him that I thought he was being unfair because he goes out to his classes and I don’t say a thing because I know it’s something he enjoys. I also told him how this is being beneficial for my mental health and I feel kinda bad he is not supporting. He says he doesn’t understand how I can be 2 hours at the gym, and doesn’t get why I need so much massages. I told him I was not going to stop doing the things that are good for me and that I loved because of him. He hasn’t spoken to me since, just the “basic” stuff because we live together. Should I approach him? I always am the one who initiates conversation when we fight and I’m growing tired of it. I’m starting to feel frustrated without speaking to him. I know he needs time to process his emotions but I feel it’s been long enough.