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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/dumbass_louison on 2023-06-23 12:34:57+00:00.


I (f20) live with a flatmate (m27). I’ve been living with my flatmate for a few months. He usually comes back from work around 10 pm every day. In the past few weeks, I’ve never seen him come home before that time. I’m on summer vacation so the hours of when I’m home vary all the time.

A few days ago, my friend comes over in the afternoon. Things heat up and we start having sex. I’m not sure if this is important, but this was completely unplanned, we’ve never done anything like this before. We started around 6:30 / 7, in my head way before he’ll come home. Surprise, surprise, he comes back around 8. Neither my friend nor I hear him come in, but we hear a knock at my door.

I rush to put my clothes back on, and I get out of my room and see him on our couch. We make eye contact, I go back to my room feeling very embarrassed and decide I’ll talk to him about it tomorrow.

When I talked to him the following day, he was upset and told me that it was not cool to have sex when he was home, which I completely understand. He asked me next time to warn him so that he could come home later. I tried to explain to him that he came home early and that I would of course never do that when he was there, but he didn’t want to hear it. I also tried to tell him that I don’t plan in advance when I have sex so I can’t really “warn” him, but that all the previous times I made sure it happened when I knew he wouldn’t be home.

He’s acted cold towards me since, and I feel very bad that he had to hear me, but I also didn’t do it on purpose so I feel like he’s being a bit harsh.

AITA ?