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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/aitabfnickname on 2023-06-23 15:31:05+00:00.

My boyfriend and I have been friends for a while, long before we started dating. I have passively known I share a name with his mum for a while but never really thought about it. Now that we’re dating, he tried to give me a nickname out of nowhere and I was genuinely confused. He kept doing it and I told him that’s not my name and I’d rather be referred to as my name — perhaps this is me being a little bitchy, because my name lends to quite few nicknames, but I don’t like them and don’t associate them with “me” at all.

He explained to me that he’s uncomfortable calling me by a name I share with his mum now that we’re in a relationship. Personally I find this weird? I know people with the same name and I can separate them from each other easily. He’s not the only man I know with his name either. Besides, he never calls her by her name so what’s the point? When I told him that I don’t want a nickname and I’d like him to call me by my name, he called me inconsiderate. This isn’t a big deal or anything but I’m just curious to see what other people think about this because I really couldn’t imagine this being a problem for him until he told me.