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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Inside-Owl-3711 on 2023-07-08 11:15:47+00:00.

I (27m) have three of my nephews over for the weekend. They’re cool kids and I love having them over. However one of them, “Erik” (14m) has a gigantic appetite. Like, literally every time I see this kid he’s wolfing down food. You wouldn’t think it because he’s super lank, but I guess he’s at that age where it’s normal, I’ve been there.

At dinner last night we had a nice meat loaf and some mac and cheese. I gave everyone big servings, and the other two kids were happy with it, but naturally Erik wanted more. I told him he should probably just save room for dessert and he did. But he still wanted to eat another serving of dinner after dessert. I wanted to save some food for our dinner tomorrow, so I told him he couldn’t have anymore.

But my wife (26f) went over my head and told Erik he could have more if he wanted, and he went on to eat so much he almost instantly fell asleep on the couch, where my other nephews were playing video games.

It was overall a really good day but I was miffed that my wife went over my head over the food thing, and when we went to bed I told her I felt like what we’d served was reasonable. She argued that since Erik is a guest he can have as much food as he wants, and she can always buy more (she usually stocks the kitchen). She thinks I’m being a jerk for thinking I can control how much we do or don’t serve and that it’s weird I would have told Erik he can’t have another serving without at least checking with her first.

I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it since. Was I being the asshole? I think I was in the right, why not save some dinner. Erik already had a lot of food as it is.