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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/chode_temple on 2023-06-23 20:47:43+00:00.

My (late 20s) sister (mid 20s) has been planning her wedding for over a year. It is scheduled for October. It’s a huge, elaborate, expensive affair and she’s been a bridezilla the whole time.

My partner and I had a talk and decided it would be a good time for us to get married. The timing is right and we’ve been dating for over 4 years.

Some important context:

1- Our wedding will be across the country. I live in a different state.

2- My sisters weren’t invited because we really want it to be the smallest event possible. When I say small, I mean both of our parents and a friend who is officiating. There’s a waterfall nearby, so we’re just going there. I’m buying a white sundress, we’re exchanging rings, then going out for a steak dinner. I don’t want to ask them to fly across the country, especially when we aren’t super close.

3- Her wedding is in October. Mine would be in August.

My other sister (late teens) sent me a long text message with some of the following quotes:

“I’m surprised at your timing and that you’re rushing to get it done before (bride sister). I’m confused why you think it would be okay to do something major like this in the months leading up to her wedding when she deserves to feel special. (Bride sister) doesn’t ask for attention much, and this is the biggest event of her life. You guys have said you didn’t want to get married anyway.”

First of all, bride sister nonstop asks for attention. She has her whole life. My parents can verify this. Second, my timing wasn’t intentional. It is the right time for us. We haven’t really told anyone, and we don’t plan to. Third, I would hardly call this a wedding. It’s a completely inconspicuous ring exchange, and we haven’t even told most of our closest friends.

My parents and close friend side with me because they know my sister and see this for what it is. My sisters are mad at me.

I respect the stress and importance of a wedding. It’s not like I think her wedding doesn’t matter. It just seems like such an overreaction.

AITA?