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The original was posted on /r/bestofredditorupdates by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 on 2023-11-27 06:00:10.
I am not The OOP, OOP is u/CandleQueen90
My Neighbor
Originally posted to r/datingoverthirty
Thanks to u/soayherder for suggesting this BoRU
TRIGGER WARNING: sexism/misogyny and bigotry
Original Post Jan 13, 2022
I (31 F) have a neighbor… he’s really handsome, and so nice. When he first moved in, he introduced himself and asked if he could help with my yard work… the weeds were admittedly bad. I honestly figured he just wanted to be nice, and also didn’t want to look at my weeds every day. But he’s continued to do really nice things for me, like scrape my windows after it’s snowed. He’s never asked me out, or said much to make me think he was interested, except one time, when he brought me flowers on Father’s Day, saying “for the woman doing both roles.” I was so flattered, but also confused, because he hasn’t really made any efforts to get to know me. I don’t know how common buying flowers for someone you aren’t interested in is. But I thought maybe he was raised for a single mom or something? I just always wave, and the other day I went to ask if he scraped my windshield, and gave him a hug and thanked him. I told him I had a hard day that day, and that small gesture helped a lot.
ANYWAYS he just liked me on Hinge. Haha, I guess he is interested after all. However…… do I really want to date my neighbor? It sounds like it could be really convenient…… or awkward. What if it doesn’t work out? I’m really attracted to him. He takes good care of his house, and my love language is acts of service, which he has done well already.
But…… neighbors??? I don’t know.
Also, feels like the universe is telling me something. Because I have been really interested in this other guy, but am hesitant because he lives 2 hours from me. Then my neighbor matches me. Which is now too close. Hahahaha can’t we find a medium?
UPDATE: We’ve been texting. He started hitting on me pretty quickly, and I kinda got hookup vibes from him. I asked him what he was looking for, and he said he isn’t looking for anything serious. But if I fall I love we’ll figure it out. (I felt like that comment was weird but from what I’ve gathered when we talked before, he has a playful and light sense of humor). Womp womp. But also…… maybe I’m okay with that?
Update Jan 14, 2022
HE AIN’T IT YOU GUYS.
When he said he didn’t want anything serious, that was enough. But I did consider casual with him, because he’s attractive, and has been really kind and respectful in all of our interactions. I also am open to casual. I’ve been single for 8 years. Up until somewhat recently, casual was all I wanted. I’m fearful avoidant and do not relationship well. I think I am in a better place and am really hopeful I can navigate relationship territory, but I digress- casual is totally an option for me.
THEN HE TEXTS ME THIS GEM:
“So pansexual huh. You’re just a wild one. Here I was thinking you’re an innocent nerd who had a wild night and ended up with a child. I guess you can’t judge a book by it’s cover.”
I’m a lil shocked, and don’t know where to even begin with this text, the offensiveness is layered.
Needless to say, I will be pursuing nothing with neighbor.
Now to plan a meet with Mr. Long Distance.
RELEVANT COMMENTS
Impressive_Ad_1320
Tell him you have no idea what he is talking about and just find kitchen pans very sexy
OOP replied
In the closet? No, I’m in the cabinet
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Plug-From-Oaxaca
Damn he literally talked himself out of sex lol.
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lauraleipz
Well good job he can help with the gardening as thats the only bush he gets to go near.
FINAL COMMENT FROM OOP
Next time he sees me when we are both outside, if he says “how are you?” I think I’m going to say something like “oh, just WILD.”
Lmao
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