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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/anonymousAITAH on 2023-06-24 15:27:02+00:00.


Post here: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/13wo6bs/aita_for_calling_my_fiancée_selfish_for_wanting/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=2&utm_term=1

Sorry for the long wait as I have been going through some things (me and my fiancée breaking up, work, death of my grandfather, etc)

So I didn’t expect to get a bunch of replies to my post. But a lot of them were helpful, my ex was determined to go to the wedding, despite my protests and even planned out how she was going to be refusing alcohol when offered. I did tell my ex’s parents about what she was planning on doing. I didn’t want to tell the groom or bride because I wouldn’t know how to put it in words that would make the whole situation any less awful. Ex’s parents did end up telling the bride’s parents and then they told the bride.

The bride was so upset that she, unfortunately, called off the wedding. Everyone wanted her to continue it and invite my ex for a couple of plans guests thought of (ex: when my ex announced it everyone would just stay nonchalant and not give her the excited reaction she was hoping for, and the classic just don’t invite her plan.

The bride was just understandably wanted to be left alone and she just texted my fiancee a very long paragraph telling her what a horrible person she was. She just decided not to do the wedding anymore, and her fiancé was very heartbroken, but all in all, they were both grateful to me. My ex instantly knew that I was ‘the cause’ of all of this and she was furious at me, even more, because I posted about it here, but also said a pretty sick thing about how she still pretty much ‘won’ anyways. I just decided to break up with her myself after that.

Some of her family members are kinda upset with me, as they believed I just caused a bunch of drama. Now I’m currently in the works of talking to an attorney as my ex told me I will not be seeing the baby after they’re born. So all that on top of grief, working, breakup, being called a ‘mess starter’ by some of her family, and still feeling like shit because either way the bride and groom were heartbroken. It’s just putting a bunch of anxiety and stress on me lol. Anyways here is the long-awaited update. Any questions, I’ll answer.