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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Legal_Strawberry_764 on 2023-06-24 15:53:02+00:00.

My sister recently completed training her service dog to help with her heart problems.

My mother-in-law is severely allergic to dogs, having trouble breathing and several bad reactions.

I got married 2 weeks ago and I wanted to have both of them at my wedding, but I had this allergy problem.

I talked to my sister and explained to her that I would love to have her at the wedding, but I would have to make some adjustments to the ceremony and party because of my MIL’s allergies, because I know she must bring her dog.

I made a commitment: My sister wouldn’t sit in the first row (row of parents and sibilings) but a little further away and her table at the party would be further away too (there was a table for her parents and one for sibiling, she would be at the sibilings), but as my MIL wouldn’t stay long at the party and after an hour she would leave (right after the mother-son dance)… After that it would be ll, I would like her to feel at ease. But with my MIL, she would have this limitation on distance until she’s gone, because just as she is my sister, my MIL is my husband’s mother.

She didn’t look very happy, but said she understood my conflict and accepted.

My wedding day was wonderful, my sister was at the religious ceremony, but I heard that she didn’t stay at the party, even though my MIL stayed for 1 hour.

After I got back from my honeymoon, I called her up to talk and she said I made her feel left out and bad by having to take her service dog, preferring to make her totally uncomfortable for my MIL’s sake

I don’t think it was that, because it was a health issue and I tried to compromise, but I don’t know, my family is a bit divided.

AITA?

Making it clear that I didn’t ask my MIL to leave early, she and my FIL are not party people and don’t like to stay too long on these occasions.