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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Character-Living1275 on 2023-06-24 17:35:27+00:00.

My oldest daughter (Ginger) just graduated from high school and is going to college. She’s excited so on her celebration party invitation it had simple instructions gift only what you think you’d need as an incoming freshman. She got amazing gifts that she loved. One of the last gifts came from my sister who’s a pot stirrer. It was a dual DNA test and it had a note saying “pass this test and find out the truth” years ago my wife cheated on me with her coworker. (This happened after my daughter’s birth) All I know is the man was ginger and my daughter is ginger. However, there are cousins on both sides of the family that is ginger so yes it could happen. We never told our kids about the infidelity and I never had suspicions about my daughter. She was always a brilliant child and I loved her for it.

I was hurt. I grabbed the gift and threw it at my sister and tried to kick her out but my sister was insisting on the truth of the matter to put my family at rest. My sister defended her actions by saying why would I want to invest in Ginger’s future if she wasn’t even my daughter. She said she doesn’t want to buy my daughter gifts if it’s not her niece. I noticed over the years Ginger didn’t get the same types of gifts from my side of the family and I always just thought it was because Ginger was nerdy and they didn’t know what to get her.

My sister eventually left leaving awkward questions and tears from the rest of my family. My mother defended my sister’s actions saying we all just want to know the truth and Ginger is 18 now so as an adult, she should know the situation. I’m sick of these speculations about her birth but I’m not forcing her to take a DNA test to appease my shitty sister and my enabling mom.