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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Quietshrew82 on 2023-06-24 20:15:23+00:00.

My 13 year old daughter Grace, recently took part in a singing and dancing contest for teenagers at a festival in England. She did amazing and got amazing feedback from the judges, saying she was fantastic, fully caught their attention, “wicked,outstanding and wonderful” and star quality.

However, when she was being introduced to perform, something annoyed me. The announcer introduced contestants like this - “This schoolgirl from Norfolk will perform”, “this A level student from Cheshire will sing”, “this part time waitress from Manchester”, “this LOTR enthusiast from London”, “this footballer from Leeds” etc, etc. This is also a way to get to know and get an understanding of the performers, since people were given the chance to vote for their favourites with 3 ribbons up for grabs.

This is how my daughter was introduced as "this headmaster’s daughter from Northern Ireland ‘’. This annoyed me. How is her Dad’s job relevant? How does that communicate anything about her to the audience? and also the festival took place in a very working class area. When people think of school headmaster’s they think it’s an elite job due to the position of authority and think of those big fancy schools like Eton and Oxford. My husband’s school is just a normal school, nothing elite about it but I could understand how it could seem that way to the audience. My daughter didn’t win any of the ribbons and I was annoyed. I confronted the announcer a little while after about it and he said he wanted to give the contestants a unique introduction to avoid repetition. I asked couldn’t he have mentioned her hobbies that were mentioned in the application form, her job as a part time cleaner, her experience or even just call her Northern Irish. He was very dismissive of my complaint.

On the way home, I was still annoyed about it. My husband noticed this and asked what was wrong. I stated my complaint and he said I was making a big deal out of nothing. It turned into a huge argument with him asking “Do I only care about her winning rather than performing and having fun?”. I replied I want her to do her best and that introduction more than likely cost her. It continued back and forth until we basically didn’t speak until we got home. I feel he doesn’t understand why I’m annoyed, I want Grace to do the best she can and I feel like that introduction cost her in some way.