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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/FancyPenguin10 on 2023-07-17 04:18:01.

I’m a straight male in my 20s and I find the idea of being able to perform sexual acts on a woman in any way that I want to exciting, but i’m worried it could be because of something deeper and disrespectful.

The way I see it is that I have a strong desire to be wanted and trusted, and someone giving me anything and everything in a sexual manner seems to be a way that I could achieve that. Someone wanting me and allowing me to have sexual contact with them in any way I could want seems to fulfill some sort of feeling of being wanted and being extremely intimately connected I guess?

I have never acted on these thoughts without explicit consent as I value consent more than my desires (and even when i did receive it I didn’t really act on it in worries of going too far and doing something they’re not used to/comfortable with). but the fact that I think of it at all makes me worried that it’s objectifying and caused through misogyny either in myself or through society.

Is it wrong of me to have this kink/fantasy? I could be overthinking it and having false anxiety because that’s not how I consciously see this kink for myself, but i’m worried there’s a worse unconscious reason for it