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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/aita-account-34578 on 2023-06-25 13:59:50+00:00.

Me (f29) and my boyfriend Jack (m34) are planning to move in together. The apartment is in a pretty upscale neighborhood from where I currently live with a housemate. Me and her have always split costs 50-50.

Jack has a high paying job and earns significantly more than my job. I’m also currently working on a diploma and have another semester to go.

We’re usually good about making decisions together but hit a bump with this. Basically, Jack thinks household costs (bills, groceries and so on) should be split 50-50 between us, but I think that’s completely unfair and should be proportional to our income. One of his reasons is that I’m fine splitting costs with my housemate equally, but I think that’s different because 1. me and her are housemates, not partners and 2. we’re on a similar financial level.

We’ve gone back and forth on this and both blew up at each other. He said I was acting like a leech and I should just use my savings, but I got kind of pissed and told him he needs to understand not everyone has as much money as him and it’s a lot harder for me.

A friend of mine suggested I post here and she also thinks I’m being unreasonable.

AITA?