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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/snack-wrap on 2023-07-18 04:11:12.

My(26F) sister(34F) is getting married in about two months. This is will be her second marriage and wedding, as she got married and divorced when she was 21. Her first husband had an affair less than a year after they got married. Her first wedding was very low budget and small.

For this wedding, she and her fiancé are both financially stable enough to put a good amount of money into the ceremony and reception. My sister has always liked color coordination and aesthetics were always important to her. Therefore, I was not surprised that she had a very specific color scheme planned for her wedding. However, yesterday I went over to her house to help fill envelopes for her invitations and was very shocked to find out that she assigned each guest a specific color outfit to wear.

Now, I’m no stranger to the idea of the wedding couple asking guests to only wear black or only wear colors in a certain scheme. However, the colors she chose were very specific and even specific to the person. For context, some of the colors she had on the invites were burnt orange, marigold, mustard, garnet, and umber. I think these colors are way too specific for any given person to have an outfit already in that color.

I told her that guests shouldn’t have to go out and buy a new outfit just to attend her wedding. She got mad at me and kicked me out of her house. She accused me of trying to ruin her second chance at love and sabotaging her wedding. I think she is just extra on edge because it’s her second wedding and she is already slightly insecure, hence the large reaction. She called our mom to tell me to apologize.

I honestly don’t think I should apologize, but I’m honestly just being kind of petty. I’ll probably end up apologizing just to keep her spirits up, but I am curious if anyone agrees with me or her. So, AITA?