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The original was posted on /r/maliciouscompliance by /u/DoctorFantastic9th on 2024-02-12 07:02:25.

My (20) paternal grandma (70) is the landlady’s secretary of the apartment complex we’re living in. We don’t live in the same unit because the one we live in only has a single bedroom, so it’s just me and my parents, and I sleep in the living room. We are neighbors, however, and she has a key to our house, which is a problem for EVERYONE because she just enters whenever she wants. And before you ask why don’t we just change the locks? You need to have permission from the landlady, which means you’ll have to go through HER. Add locks? She won’t stop knocking and it became a problem with my dad who couldn’t open the door from the outside when we are still asleep. My mother and I have always had a problem with her because she’s too demanding about chores. This is why in the last decade and more, we moved houses to houses just to get away from her, but we ended back here because of financial problems.

Her constant meddling with the way our household works and our chores is becoming a problem again. Unlike before, we cannot clean the house everyday because my mom is no longer a housewife and I’m already in college and classes usually end in the evening. My dad has a night shift and weekend shifts so he comes home in the morning and would rather sleep. In short, nobody has the time to extensively sweep the floor, wipe everything clean, mop, etc. We do clean, but not like my grandma, who wants to move everything just to get into every nook and cranny. So my grandma does it for us “as a favor” and it has disrupted me during my online classes and during my mom’s rest time just to ask us to help her. My dad has not experienced it personally because my grandma just respects her son more than us and whenever I drop hints that I don’t want her here at this time, my dad defends her when she notices.

Yesterday, my dad came home late and grumpy, and proceeded to go to bed. My grandma did not visit us the last few days, so we just kinda did whatever we wanted. But then she saw the mess and decided that she will clean WHILE my dad was asleep at around 2 PM. Because I was not in my online class yet, I complied and helped her with the chores, which included sweeping the bedroom. So naturally, she turned the lights on, had to move stuff around, turned the electric fan off (we don’t have an air conditioner and we live in a tropical country), and this of course, disrupted my dad’s sleep. My dad sat up, furious, and walked out. I didn’t say a word. He was not supposed to wake up until 5 PM and he cannot go back to sleep easoly and I KNEW THIS. My dad shouted that she’s being disrespectful of everyone’s time and she knows it’s wrong to disturb him especially because it’s not easy for him to fall asleep. Grandma tried guilt-tripping him but my dad was just baffled with her audacity to be mad at him.

My grandma hastily wrapped up the cleaning and left the unit, almost teary-eyed. I know, like every other old person, she wants to feel like she still has a use in our family, but she just ends up being extremely disrespectful towards us just so we can live up to her standards of “clean.”