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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/closet_hippie_ on 2023-07-18 04:56:55.

I (31F) am married to the oldest son (33M) of 7 children. We have 2 children ages 10 and 7. My husband I are very close with his family, and regularly get invited over for dinner, along with all of his siblings. We are currently the only ones with kids.

Unfortunately, one of my brother in laws has a tendency to not censor himself in front of children. He and I got into a heated argument over this when my husband and I were dating because now brother in law was speaking very sexually explicit in front of one of their younger siblings. He made it clear that he didn’t give 2 shits and he was going to say whatever he wanted to say, in front of whoever he wanted. This habit has not changed since my husband and I have had children. I usually make sure my kids stay out of the room whenever that particular uncle has also been invited to dinner.

Recently we were invited over for dinner, along with all of my husband’s siblings. My husband was unable to come with us due to work. It is not out of the norm for myself and the kids to go to my in laws by ourselves, so this is entire scenario is completely normal. Usually once everyone arrives, we eat dinner, have dessert, and once the kids leave the room, the adults talk freely without censoring themselves. Great, right?

This particular night, however, that was not how things went. As we were all still eating, the conversation between my father in law and the aforementioned brother in law turned incredibly explicit out of nowhere. Without getting into too much detail, the conversation was along the lines of how horrible it is that different cultures commit a very specific form of abuse(r word) on small children, and the differences in how it’s done to little girls versus little boys. There was not even an attempt on their parts to censor anything they were saying. Needless to say, I was HORRIFIED and quickly told my kids to leave the room. They hadn’t even finished their dinner.

As I sat there, my blood began to boil and I knew it was time for us to leave. Long story short, we left without saying goodbye to all but a couple of people. My mother in law knew I was furious and tried to defuse things with me privately. I let her know that while it’s not my place to tell people how they can and can’t speak in their own house, I was disgusted at the fact that it was the adults at the table that refused to censor themselves long enough for my kids to at least finish their dinner before being banished from the main part of the house. So rather than making a scene, it was time for us to leave.

Since everything happened, there has been little to no communication with my in laws. My husband is 100% in agreement with how I feel, and is pretty shocked by his parent’s response to all this. But I’m now wondering if I overreacted. So AITA? *Edited to add more clarification to the topic being discussed at the dinner table!