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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Boring-Essay4416 on 2023-07-19 02:39:45.

First I want to start off by saying that I (M27) am Samoan this wouldn’t matter if my wife’s family weren’t all racist garbage. I learned this after me and my wife had been dating for over 6 months she was still pretty nervous and off put with the idea of introducing me to her family, and by this point she had already met my dad (my mom was not in the picture growing up) and my two brothers.

When she finally had me come over to her parents place I was pretty excited till I actually got there. both her parents were giving me and her dirty looks and making weird comments like “were did you find this thing” and asking me what my future plans and after I explained that I wanted to become an electrician her father saying it makes sense that “someone like you” wouldn’t want to go to college this pissed me off and I straight up said “What do you fucking mean someone like me?” in which he responded “you know exactly what I fucking mean you fucking (insert slur here) your lucky you were even let into my house I suggest you leave.”

I’ve been allowed back over after that and to make a long story short the only person who hasn’t overall treated me like shit is my sister in law and she was always friendly and always apologized for her parents rudeness she was even the only one of my wife’s family to attend our wedding.

but she told my wife two weeks ago that she wasn’t going to invite me or my son to her wedding to avoid causing problems within there family as my wife’s father was the main provider for the wedding and he really doesn’t like me

my son (M5) has a light brown skin tone with dark eyes and dark brown hair in her families eyes he’s “tainted” and treats him differently from my sister in laws daughter

my wife said that she still has to go to support her sister especially seeing and she went to our wedding and has never treated myself or my son any differently AITA for thinking she shouldn’t go at least without my son?