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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Geowoman2021 on 2023-07-19 05:37:25.

I (24F) have been dating my boyfriend (29M) for 5 months. His friend is getting married and my boyfriend was invited to the wedding with a +1. The wedding invitation came out after him and I were dating for quite a while and the couple knew about me. I have only met the couple maybe once or twice and have had no real conversations with them. They have never showed interest in getting to know me although I have tried. So they are practically strangers to me.

The wedding is a couple states away from us. A group of my boyfriend’s friends, who are also in different states, got an Airbnb to split to attend the wedding, which I was not included in the planning of place or the cost of the house.

My boyfriend asked me to be his +1 but I have would have to take off two days of work and pay $400, as my part of the Airbnb, because my boyfriend’s friend group decided to split it evenly between all people.

I told my boyfriend that I shouldn’t have to pay to watch strangers get married. Especially when every moment is going to be taken up by wedding weekend activities so this was no vacation. I asked him to talk about the costs with his friends and their thoughts about the situation. Him and all of his friends berated me saying that I needed to pay my fair share and calling me stupid for even suggesting I didn’t pay the full share.

I am 5 years younger than everyone in that friend group and not able to just throw money around for trips like this. I brought up the point that if I didn’t go that no one except my boyfriend would notice and they would have to split the additional cost amongst them anyways. Which if I didn’t go the additional cost would be ~$75 more a person. Not to mention I wouldn’t be taking up additional space because I was going to be sharing a room with my boyfriend.

So AITA for bringing up that I don’t want to pay to be a +1?