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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Creative-Study5944 on 2023-06-26 02:09:58+00:00.

Good friend who i was roommate with for several years is going into law enforcement. the agency he is going to has a super strict background process. friend got a conditional offer. He listed me as a roommate and said i could be expecting call from the background officer conducting his report. This is fine, but i told friend i had been arrested a few times for minor marijuana possession back in the day and i generally dont like dealing with cops.

Cop called, and started asking questions about my prior arrests/drug usage. I told cop politely and firmly that i would not answer any questions about my personal life but i was happy to talk about my friends actions/moral character. Cop ignored me and asked about my arrests and started asking about “if i had sexual relations with my roommate” and if i ever was arrested or questioned for “sexual matters” since we both were gay. I told cop firmly that this was over and not to contact me again. Cop told me he was gonna put the roommates offer on hold, and if i didnt call back and give a complete interview he was gonna let the conditional offer lapse, and my friend would have to apply again or somewhere else.

I told friend about it and he asked me to call back and suck it up, i told him no and he got mad.

AITA?