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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Lucky-Payment7512 on 2023-06-26 02:54:58+00:00.

I (24F) have a brother Cole (28M). He has a wife Pam (31F) and a best friend Rick (28M) since kindergarten. As long as I can remember Rick’s always been around and my family’s joked that he and Cole are platonic soulmates. He’s invited to every family gathering, every holiday and sometimes just stays over without Cole there. Our family has welcomed SIL into the family (+ Rick) but she’s a bit socially awkward and doesn’t really fit in with our family. The only person she really gets along with is our mom and that’s because she gets along with older ladies since she’s practically one. She’s a vanilla wife basically.

Rick’s going through chemotherapy. Cole has been by his side the entire time. I don’t think that SIL hated the idea but it’s hard to know what she thinks. The place where Rick gets chemo is about an hour away from Cole and SIL’s place.

When Cole was at the hospital with Rick he got news that SIL had a minor car accident and asked me to check on her since I live close to the ER she was taken while he got ready to leave.

I got there and SIL was recovering from the small surgery and anesthesia. She only had a few staples in her scalp and a broken arm. The doctors said she was very lucky to be so unharmed.

SIL saw me and waved me over. She said “Tell your bro I wanna be loved. I want a divorce.” and stuff about getting a gold medal in her own life. I didn’t really think a lot about it since it was obvious she was still feeling the anesthesia.

I called my bro and told him that SIL was fine and it was a minor surgery and the doctors said she was lucky. He was relieved and came to the hospital an hour or so later.

I thought everything was fine until Cole called me the day after screaming his head off that SIL wanted to separate and I hadn’t told him. Then my mom called and said SIL’s side of the family was telling our side of the family that they were separating. She bit my head off for not telling anybody what SIL said. She also yelled at my brother for being with Rick instead of SIL even though she was there too. Either of them could have gone.

I still think there was no point of telling them since it was clear SIL was still feeling the anesthesia. AITA?

Edit: I don’t know the details but it basically boiled down to Cole putting his family + friends before her every time. Honestly I’m not sure what she’s talking about since Cole has always been a thoughtful, generous guy and she said that’s why she fell in love with him. I think it’s so sad that something that your partner loves you for is now why they hate you. She never even brought up these issues either. Cole’s devasted and begged her to not leave him.

Edit edit: the reason Cole was late was because Rick wasn’t done with chemo and another friend was going thru a severe mental health thing so my bro had to calm her down and he couldn’t do that in the car. So he was delayed getting to the hospital. It’s sad but like a triage SIL wasn’t where Cole was needed the most at the time because her injuries were pretty minor