This is an automated archive made by the Lemmit Bot.

The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/BushidoBrown212 on 2024-03-13 08:23:53.

There’s this girl in my class whom I’ve taken a big interest in. After taking her to lunch at Dennys I noticed she did’nt understand social cues, and didn’t catch my flirts. My friend who is outgoing and has autism told me to bring the inner child out of her, such as play fights or thumb wars. But this girl is shy, has social anxiety, and I seem to have a hard time making her laugh. It was kinda of hard to find topics to talk about as I was the only one asking questions about her. She didn’t make eye contact most of the time, so it was hard for me to read her. But she did thank me for the lunch after. I understand I have to be direct with flirting, and to ask close ended questions. I have learned the basic attributes of someone with autism in the past few years. But theres a few things I need advice on which google couldn’t help.

  1. She doesn’t ask questions like what my name was, would it annoy her if I talked about myself without asking? Im pretty modest and don’t usually talk about myself like that.
  2. How do I bring the inner child out of her? Shes calm but shy, I don’t know what reaction she would give if I play fight/thumbwars with her.
  3. Will she give gestures or her own social cues on whether she’s comfortable/uncomfortable or if shes enjoying herself?
  4. I understand body language is important, but facial gestures are much more important. Should I give more facial gestures to show how I feel in every statement?
  5. What kind of things could we talk about including her special interest? I’m wouldn’t want to talk about something that would bore her, but I’d like to expand on topics that could make her laugh.
  6. How would I make her laugh? She said “Geszuheit” to me when I sneezed and she had a big smile on her face, it was really cute. My instinct was using dad jokes but I know she wouldn’t catch them.
  7. How can I flirt with her? I understand being direct is important, but is there a way to compliment and make her smile like “your art is as pretty as you are”