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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Im_not_here_shhh1678 on 2023-06-26 04:22:53+00:00.

I (20F) and my Step-sister “Clara” (28F) never had any problems before. We stayed civil with each other, mostly because we actually don’t interact that much so there’s no room for fights since we just don’t see often. Until now.

She’s getting married in a couple of days, and my BIL asked me for something a week ago: a cake. I do cakes and sell them, but not to living, just so I can get a little bit more of money to pay my college, so I don’t have experience doing such big cakes for big events. BIL told me it’s not a big wedding, so I don’t have to worry, it’s a decently sized cake for at least 80 people. Still big but something I can manage. So I said yes.

I sent Clara a message asking for specifications and she replied with screenshots of cakes from pinterest. Nothing more. I had to push her further so she can give me exact ideas for the cake since all her replies to my questions were “It’s literally in the images I sent, can’t you see?” Whatever. Days passed and I sent her a quick sketch of the cake and she didn’t replied. Other day passed and I sent a image of all the things I bought for the cake so she can tell me if that’s the things she asked for, but again, nothing.

So, I then told her how much it would cost the cake and that if she can please pay me the half now, so she can pay the other half later. And this time I did got an answer. A call. She was fuming and demanding an explanation of why I’m charging her for the cake, practically yelling at me. I was confused by her reaction, and I had to explain to her that it’s literally my job, and that I already bought all the things for her cake so all I’m asking is for the half of the payment. She said that how I DARE to charge her for a cake for her special day, that family does things for eachother without expecting something back, and more BS like that.

Long story short: she’s not paying for shit, and she made sure to let it very clear that she’s not giving me a single penny.

Yesterday she called me again and asked me how is her cake going. I told her I’m not doing anything since she’s not paying, so if she wants a cake she can ask someone else. She yelled and cried, saying I’m a selfish bitch, that I don’t care about her and there’s no time for her to get another person, so to please stop being a bitch and help her out. I laughed at her and hung up. Later, my dad called and told me that I’m an asshole for laughing at Clara when she’s in distress, and that just make a stupid cake so she can stop complaining about me.

I admit, I actually CAN do her cake since I already have the things, so that let me thinking that, well, maybe I’m being a salty asshole. I can do her cake, I have the things already bought and her sketch made, so I don’t loose anything My mom told me the exact same, and I’m genuinely starting to thing that I might be an asshole here.

So Reddit, am I the asshole?