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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/kamikazepaco on 2023-06-26 11:39:38+00:00.

TL;DR: my ex wants to buy the house that I own for me at cost, which would effectively give her all of my equity

My ex (26F) an I (29M) I have been having problems for over a year now and have recently decided to break up. On the phone call where we decided to end things (don’t worry folks she told me to call her in a moment I knew what I wanted to do so it’s not like I just called him, broke up with her out of disrespect) she asked me to sell her the house I purchased three years ago to her at cost. That would have me leaving at least $40,000 in equity behind. When I told her that was a big ask and I have to think about it she started asking me. What do I plan to do it whenever I move (military- could move in a few months). I told her I’d rent it out or sell it and that clearly upset her. On one hand, we did shop for houses together and she Fell in love with this one right away. She also made it her home so I get what she wants it but on the other hand $40,000 is almost life-changing money. Additionally, the house and the utilities and everything is in my name. And the house got storm damage. I pay the deductible without help from her. AITA if I keep my house or should I look at all of this in a different light?

Edit: she does pay $850/mo into a joint account. The account was recently opened so most of the money from the first two years is of course not in there. I do intend to give her the account

Side note: I’m skipping a lot of contextual information that’s probably important, but for the sake of brevity if someone in the comments ask, I’ll give it to them