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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Consistent_Spread_65 on 2023-07-26 21:26:05.

I find this discussion both silly and concerning. So my bf and I were talking about the future. The topic of kids came up as well as our friends and siblings having kids. At some point I said I’m not going to babysit anyone’s kids unless it’s a true emergency.

He did not like that as we should be accommodating to our friends and family. I told him if he agrees to babysit for someone, he and him alone will care for the child/children. I personally think the idea of taking care of a baby or child by himself freaked him out so he started getting rather combative with me about this. Like how I won’t help our friends out when they wanna go on dates nights and stuff. I told him all our friends have families and support systems and that we wouldn’t be the first option anyways. Also that when you have kids, you sign up to hold off or even give up certain privileges in life.

He kept circling the same thing then brought up his siblings and I said pretty much the same thing. He would take care of them alone. I do not neglect or act unkind to children even if I don’t like them or want them around. However, I did not sign up to be a babysitter unless for emergencies. I refuse to be left with a baby crying cuz the person who volunteered can’t get their shit together.

I finished off with that these kids don’t even exist and he’s getting very upset over no one. He has never babysat in his life. I think he’s held a baby 3 times. I told him to try that out first then bring this up again if he really cares so much.

I don’t think I’m an asshole but his attitude was off. No one has kids yet so I don’t know why he’s triggered.