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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/User1938642896 on 2023-07-27 03:13:25.

I (23F) am supposed to get married to my fiancé who I’ll call Brandon (24M) in late august

We’re getting married in the country side by one of the lakes I’ve gone to my entire life, me and my husband chose to not allow children because 1.we’re going to serve alcohol and 2. We don’t want a tantrum to erupt in the middle of the ceremony (happened at my sisters wedding)

But we’ve decided to allow a few circumstances, my best friend (who’s also my maid of honours) daughter will be the flower girl as she is a very calm and quite 3 year old who sticks by her moms side

And Brandon’s sisters son (7M) to be the ring bearer, my husband and him are very close and he’s a relatively calm kid who knows how to behave

The other exception we made was for my sister In law (my brothers wife) who gave birth to my niece three months ago, I’m very very close with my sister in law and consider her a sister and it would devastate me if she couldn’t attend (she can’t leave the baby) so I’ve made the exception after talking with my fiancé and him agreeing it’s best to have her there with the baby than not at all, she’s also made it clear she would make sure the baby doesn’t interfere with the wedding/ceremony

After sending out invitations to guests that includes the information that we’d be child free I’d gotten nothing until a few days later when I’d received an angry phone call from my cousin after finding out my brothers kid was allowed but not hers

I think it’s important to note my cousin has a 6 year old son who I’ll call Jeffy he’s the worst behaved child I’ve ever met, my cousin and her husband are those people that believe their child can do no wrong and never tell him no he’s constantly causing problems and taunting other children to the point he’s been expelled from his kindergarten class

He’s the toddler that ruined my sister ceremony which is the main reason we don’t want him there, after explaining to her the reason my brother is allowed along with the two of children she told me I was “picking favourites” and hung up

Later that day I got an angry call from my aunt who thought I was being “unfair” and “cruel”

I tried explaining to her that I’d spent a lot of money on this wedding and I didn’t want him to ruin it like he did my sisters she told me “you and cousins name were best friends as kids and it was horrible you’d do this to her” and ended the call

A few days later I got a text informing me that she wouldn’t be attending if she couldn’t bring her son, I don’t know what to do?

So AITA??