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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/funkydesert369 on 2023-07-27 07:51:24.
Okay so i’m a 30 year old female with a 9 year old son. I have had an extremely close relationship with my dad my entire life, he has always been my best friend. I have my own home and job and life, but we talk multiple times a day and he’s very involved with my son, that’s just how it’s always been. So he started dating someone a year ago, and i won’t lie i was not a fan from the beginning. I recognize some of that may be some subconscious jealousy, bc he’s been single most of my life. But seriously, she’s the worst. Very controlling, moving in after just a month, taking over his money, finding fault in ALL of his relationships other than theirs.
She instigates arguments every chance she gets, and somehow i am ALWAYS the bad guy, just because we are around. She slowly made it to where my son and i see less and less of my dad, then she texted me one weekend and told me that i need to stop coming to his house on sunday nights (which has been our family dinner night for as long as i can remember) bc she has to work monday mornings, mind you i FCKN grew up in this house, and i was definitely snippy with my response. Mostly just telling her it wasn’t her place to tell me that. Now my dad won’t “allow” me in his home until i apologize to her. This has been about a month ago, and he wants my son to come spend the night and he misses him, but i can’t come inside. He has spent the night regularly his entire life, but now i’m not even allowed to bring him in and get him settled? i gotta just drop him in the driveway. Am i petty and ridiculous for not wanting my kid somewhere where i am not welcome? I’m getting mixed responses from friends and other family.
edits: i haven’t cut his communication from my son off, they facetime often, just the overnights
also i think this is being blown up with my family so much bc he has spent overnights and weekends with my dad since he was born, but now that i’m not allowed there, i have cut them off
and it’s worth mentioning my dad is not broke