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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Aggravating_Glove919 on 2023-07-27 21:18:23.

Throwaway, hence weird username. So, I , 46( F) and my husband, (50 )M, have two kids and my nieces we raised for years. The important ones in this story are my son, 25 , and my oldest niece, 25.

So anyway , my son got married at 19 while he was in the Army, to a girl he dated in highschool. He did 4 years and is out now, still a reservist though Moved close by, about a block away , so real close. His wife and him have 2 kids, 7 and 5.

His wife is… Well, heavy. Like 300+ heavy. At about my height of 5’4. And also doesn’t clean herself very well. This just happened 2 years ago. My son has tried to get her help, she won’t go to doctors or therapy, so he has had enough and left her , bringing the kids since she has trouble keeping up with them. So he’s here. Issue is, my niece is her best friend since grade school and is saying nasty stuff about my son, he shouldn’t leave his wife and take her kids because she is overweight and he’s a jerk. I said he can stay here and she needs to stay out of it. My son got sick of having to do most of the work around the house because she isn’t mobile, and doesn’t take care of herself or kids . So now waiting for court about the kids. Husband agrees but wants my niece and I to stop arguing. AITA?