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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/FedUpWithDietAITA on 2023-07-28 01:37:56.

Hello. I live with my stepmum (let’s call her Anna) who’s 5 months pregnant rn. A lot of foods now make Anna nauseous, even though she used to like almost all of them before she got pregnant. Coffee, boba tea, chocolate, anything that has a lot of sugar or would be considered dessert, anything with cheese, Mexican or Thai food. The only meat Anna can eat rn is chicken because the smell of beef, pork, or fish makes her gag.

We can’t have any of the above stuff for family meals anymore. Which I understand and I feel bad for Anna since I know it makes her sick and she can’t help it. What’s frustrating to me tho is that we aren’t allowed to eat any of the stuff at all. We can’t have it in the house and we’ll get in trouble if we eat it somewhere else because according to my dad it’s “unfair” if someone’s eating foods that Anna can’t and “it’s only fair” that we give up those foods with her.

Anna was normally super nice and peaceful before she got pregnant but now she’s in a bad mood a lot. Like she’ll get mad if the grocery store was out of almond milk or she’ll get upset if someone wears a tank top because she thinks she doesn’t look in them anymore. My dad keeps saying that it’s just her pregnancy hormones, she can’t help it, and I can deal with it for just a few more months.

I’m posting because my friend (let’s call her May) invited me to go out for donuts with her since she just got her first job. I asked Dad if I could go since it is a special occasion and Anna was out of town anyway so she wouldn’t even know. Dad said yes but then yesterday an hour before May was gonna pick me up he said he changed his mind and I couldn’t go anymore because he didn’t want Anna to find out about it and feel bad.

I admit that I started screaming which I know wasn’t a great way to handle things. But I was just so fed up because this isn’t the first time he’s forced me to cancel plans last minute like this. I told him I’m sick of it and what’s actually unfair is for everyone to be on a restricted diet 24/7 just because Anna can’t have those foods.

I’m guessing my Dad was pretty shocked since I never lose my cool like that, so he ended up letting me go out with May. But when I got back home he told me how immature I was, I’m 15 and know nothing about what Anna is going through rn, and that we’re already halfway there so I could have just soldered through for 4 more months instead of getting so worked up about it. Things are still pretty tense between me and my Dad rn so I can’t stop thinking about if he was right and I’m the one being unreasonable rn. AITA?