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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Affectionate_Air_196 on 2023-07-28 09:37:20.

My husband (40M) is a doctor and I (29F) don’t work. I got married and had my kids (6F, 4M and 2F) soon after graduating from college, so I’ve never had a real job. I was planning on working for a couple years and had a few job offers but my daughter happened sooner than we’d planned so I decided to just stay home.

While it is quite nice that I can afford to stay home, money was definitely not the main reason why I married my husband. I love him because of his personality.

My stepsister (30F) has three children (7F, 6M, and 1M). I babysit them fairly often. A few days ago my parents had a barbecue at their house. My fifth anniversary was a few weeks ago and my husband got me a diamond eternity band and tennis bracelet. I was showing those to my mom when my stepfather and stepsister walked over. My stepdad asked my stepsister when she’s getting a ring. She gave me a dirty look and said “not everybody can afford to waste thousands of dollars on a shiny rock.” I tried to be the bigger person and told my stepdad that she doesn’t need a ring and it’s obvious that her boyfriend loves her a lot whether she has one or not.

She told me to f*ck off with my fake sympathy. I asked her if she woke up on the wrong side of the bed today and she said “Some people actually have things to worry about. A useless little gold digger who’s never worked a day in her life wouldn’t understand.” I was quite offended but I don’t like confrontation so I just smiled and told her to tell me if she needs help with anything. She said that she doesn’t need my charity and accused me of trying to make her and her family feel bad by flaunting my expensive jewelry. I reminded her that she chose to walk over and join our conversation.

She said that it’s hard to feel happy when she and boyfriend still rent a house and can’t afford special stuff for themselves and their kids while working long hours. I was done with her bs so I basically told her that that’s their problem and theirs nothing I can do about that. She said that her kids feel awful when they see all the nice things my kids have and her daughter really wanted to be a ballerina and do gymnastics but she can’t afford it so she has to watch her cousin do everything she dreamed of doing.

I told her to stop being a jealous b*tch and said that if she doesn’t want her kids to be jealous then I won’t babysit them anymore. She called me insensitive and said that I’ve always been given everything I want and I’m spoiled. I didn’t want to engage with her anymore so I left to talk to my sister in law. My stepsister left the barbecue immediately after that and is still mad at me. My mother thinks I should apologize. AITA?