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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/throwaway12354679 on 2023-07-28 09:28:52.

I (24f) was asked to order pizza by my (28m) boyfriend. He had a headache and I said I’d order dinner for us. I asked him what he wanted and he said “meat lover’s pizza”. I am vegetarian. He is not. I suggested there’s an offer on a large pizza so we should get that and he still suggested wanting a meat pizza. He asked me if I wasn’t gonna get anything and I said “no I guess I’ll have the food at home”.

Fast forward to us actually getting the food and on the drive back I tell him I’m a little disappointed in him and that I felt neglected since he was not considering my dietary preferences. He kept saying “but I asked you what you wanted to eat and you said nothing.” I said “whenever I get food with you I make sure I get something we both like. I want that kind of care from your side too but I feel like right now it’s one sided.” He said I was being a little cranky because I just needed some food in me and that “it’s whatever.” I told him it is not “whatever” and it’s not some random mood swing but a real feeling that might be delivered in a more emotional tone due to my “hanger.”

We kept going back and forth arguing, where he was defending himself, even saying that I was spinning the wrong narrative and that I tried gaslighting him into thinking he never asked me if I wasn’t gonna eat anything. He also said that I hurt him by saying untrue things like he’s not considering my feelings. I apologized and said I never tried to do that and it wasn’t my intention but I just wanted to say what I felt. So he would think about that in future situations.

And finally he pulled over to my house, told me he wasn’t coming over because he needed some space. I told him that’s not a good way to deal with it and tried to convince him to at least come upstairs to eat but he didn’t budge. So I left but felt bad the night had to come to an end like this.

So I’m just wondering AITA for overreacting or is he being inconsiderate? Or both?

Edit: Some of you mentioned this so I’ll clear it up here. It was a really big pizza, we would be eating for days if it was 2 large meat and veggie ones. Also, he didn’t suggest doing half and half.

Edit 2: I vote myself the AH. Thank you redditors for some tough love but I’m gonna apologize and tell him how much he means to me and a stupid pizza isn’t gonna come between us :’)