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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Acrobatic_Hornet_936 on 2023-07-28 15:35:15.

My wife and I have 2 twin boys who are going to college next month. We are very excited for them and also excited for us to be empty nesters! I love my boys but Ive been looking forward to living with just my wife and I for a long time.

My wife’s sister has a son Josh who will be going to a college in the same city we live in. He was supposed to have an athletic scholarship that would pay for most of his tuition and room in board but it fell through due to an injury that will mean he wont play anymore. He’s wanted to go to that school for non sports reasons for a while so he will still go there. My wife’s sister recently asked us if Josh could stay with us during school or freshman year since we’ll have 2 empty bedrooms and dorms are expensive. My wife said she’d begrudgingly allow it if I was on board, but admitted its not really what she wants, and agreed we both need to be on board for it to happen. I declined. I feel bad for Josh but I want my privacy and dont want to live with an 18/19 year old college kid. If one of my kids stayed home an extra year that’d be a little disappointing, but Id allow it, but I dont want my nephew here.

Its caused a bit of conflict with my SIL calling me a selfish asshole and saying Im not acting like family. I suggested they just take out more loans to pay for it, if they dont have the cash in hand (which I think they could make work if they tried, or if SIL went back to work). AITA?