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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Useful_Helicopter_99 on 2023-07-28 18:02:26.

I (23F) am dating… let’s calling him Todd (24M). I work for very kind, supportive, and wealthy people. They are amazing! I’ve never had better bosses. I am getting my degree right now, and I work at a bar they own. Todd has expressed his disagreement with my career choice, because he thinks bartending is full of “drama” and doesn’t like people flirting with me. I don’t disagree, but it’s really great money, especially since I work in a touristy area. I like bartending, but I’m only doing it while I work on my bachelors.

Last night during my shift, I was invited to go with my coworkers, managers, and the owners of the restaurant on an all expenses paid, VIP (they’re 1/600 people in the world who have this pass apparently?) trip to Disney with a +1, and an unlimited fast pass. We’d get into these secret restaurants, stay in special lodging, etc with this vip fast pass stuff. Sounds fuckin rad right? Im by no means a Disney super-fan, but I would be stupid to not take that offer, right? I texted my bf to ask him and he said he didn’t want to go. I wasn’t surprised, and here’s why.

About 3 months ago, there was an event being thrown at my work. I brought Todd down for a little bit. He met everyone, and it seemed great. Let’s call one of the owners “Stan”. Stan was absolutely trashed. I had never seen him like that, but whatever. He’s a professional guy, usually never saw him drunk, at all. They shook hands and Stan started telling Todd how great I am, and that he better treat me well, because I am quite the catch! I don’t remember how the conversation veered off like this, but Stan said something about that he loves boobs. If he didn’t like boobs he would be “gay” or something. Nothing about me or my boobs. But still juvenile and kinda weird, but typical drunk guy banter. Todd got a horrible first impression, and has been pissed that “that’s who I work for” ever since. I never asked Todd to come to anything work related again, knowing what he thinks of them.

I brought it up again today while we were with my mom, and Todd had a meltdown. He went off about how he would never want to spend a minute with “those losers” (we really wouldn’t be spending much time with them, I was told we would be on our own and probably just get dinner all together), that he would never take a “handout” from Stan, and that he would rather be driving his sports car, and that he’s almost 25, “way too old for that shit”. I was just taken aback. I understand that Stan made a horrible first impression, but I felt like that reaction was not warranted. I said “sorry if it offended you that Stan and (wife’s name) offered to take us on a free trip to Disney. I won’t bring it up again!”

He told me that he was “so angry he could scream”, grabbed all his stuff and left. Haven’t heard from him at all since. Now I’m upset that I will miss out on this opportunity, because if I were to go, he would be furious. I understand where he’s coming from, but I feel like he’s overreacting. AITA?