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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Tadpole_Hivemind on 2023-07-28 19:16:48.
I (19f) have been dating my boyfriend (25m) for five months now and he’s amazing. However, one disagreement we often have is over housework. My boyfriend thinks that I should do housework, seeing as he works 48 hours a week, and I’m not in employment.
I have always refused. We don’t live together. We live in separate houses, and pay seperate rent. I afford rent through my university student loan, as well as tutoring and babysitting part time. So in my opinion, I have no reason to clean his house, when I have my own that I pay for.
My boyfriend thinks it’s unfair that I don’t really work, yet have enough money to rent. In his eyes, I should do household chores for him, because he is the ‘breadwinner’.
The thing is, I don’t see him as the breadwinner. He doesn’t pay for my rent, I do. We aren’t married, and I’m still in education.
I can’t tell if I’m being unreasonable. I cook for him, and occasionally help with chores, but I refuse to be a full time maid for him. Then again, he works so hard whereas I only work a few hours a week.
AITA?