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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/DazedplusC0nfused on 2023-07-28 21:02:47.

Throwaway account. Sorry if this is weird.

My wife and I are in our mid twenties. My wife’s older sister Kate has a daughter named Payton (fake name). Kate has to travel for work every few weeks so Payton stays either with us or with her grandparents. We had her earlier this week. I had the day off but my wife had to work so Payton and I were just having a chill day around the house.

She went to the bathroom and shortly after started crying which freaked me out. I went to the door and asked if she was sick or hurt. She said no. After some questioning I was able to deduce that she started her period and just didn’t know what was going on. I made sure she got decent, new clothes, showered, and such and then explained (as best as I could) that she was going through something natural. I got her some of my wife’s pads and explained how to use them. She was clothed and clean for every interaction.

I didn’t really feel the need to inform her mother. I figured Payton would text her or call her or tell her when she got picked up the next day. My wife got home and explained more things and apart from feeling physically unwell Payton did fine.

Yesterday (two days after she got picked up) Payton’s mom called me absolutely screaming me for (A) not calling her immediately and (B) not waiting for my wife or another woman to explain things to her. It’s not uncommon for Kate to be… explosive… but this was extreme even for her. She’s saying I’m inappropriate, a creep, an AH, and that Payton doesn’t feel safe staying at our house unless my wife is home, which I don’t believe is true. Payton and I get along great. She reminds me of when my own tom-boy sisters were tweens.

Did I do something wrong? AITA for not calling Kate and not letting a woman handle this?