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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Realistic_Use_4468 on 2023-07-29 00:06:24.

I (27F) came back home to my parents’ house after about 3 years. My two older brothers and their families were also invited for a few days as a way for the entire family to catch up. I was beyond excited to see everyone.

My oldest brother Malcom (35) has two 4 and 6 year old sons. We would all be staying at our old rooms as arranged by my mom (the house is spacious) and I thought there would be no problems. There was. My nephews are loud. Very very loud.

I usually work a very demanding job and I’m sleep-deprived 90% of the time anyway. I really didn’t want to go on with this sleep deprivation, and I booked a hotel nearby. Malcom found out and he kept telling me I was ruining the trip and family dynamics that we were all supposed to be together now.

I told him everyone would be more comfortable this way. He kept asking me for a reason and ultimately I said it was because I wanted my own space to comfirtably sleep in and that was hard to do with kids running around. Malcom got really upset and called me a horrible aunt and a terrible person.

I told him I’d let our mom know and she was okay. He went on to call me the golden child who wouldn’t tolerate the smallest inconvenience for family, and said I was selfish. My other brother Paul (30) has sided with him, but our parents agree with me and say as long as I show up for the main events it doesnt matter where I sleep.

I asked a few friends and they’re all torn. So I thought I’d ask here. Was I the AH?