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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Any_Volume_4503 on 2023-06-27 09:51:36+00:00.

Some years ago my sibling and I each inherited a large sum of money. My sibling spent it on a nice car, a house in a wealthy neighbourhood, a big wedding and some money to start a family. I tried going into investment and it paid off so I am now living a very comfortable life.

A few days ago my nephew (9) asked about inheritence in general since his friend had just inherited some money from a grandparent. He asked if my money would disappear since I don’t have any children (it is known in my family I don’t want any). Before I could say anything my sibling and their spouse told him that he and his sibling would inherit from me so when I died they didn’t have to work and could just live off the money they got. I told them that all my money goes to different charities and no family is in my will. My nephew thought it sounded cool and asked me about how the money would be used. When he left the table to go play my sibling and their spouse were furious. They said that they chose to work less hours because they thought they didn’t need to save money for their children because they would get my money one day when I passed. The discussion at that point didn’t go any further as the children rejoined the table. It has spread in the family that all my money go to charities and I have gotten angry messages for the past few days. People tell me it’s selfish that I’m not leaving any money for any of the children in the family and I value strangers and animal shelters over their children. My cousin’s spouse is especially vocal about all this.

I give a lot of gifts often on the more expensive side. There is also a trust fund for the children that they get when they turn 21 and the parents know this. People either argue that I should change my will or say they don’t want to get involved. My aunt and uncle are the only one who says it’s my money to do with as I please. I guess I’m kind of robbing their children of finanical stability and security? Am I the ahole for not leaving money for the children in my will? (There is free healthcare in my country so they won’t need money for that which was one of my main reasons for not including them in the will.)