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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/TryMean172 on 2023-07-29 17:11:46.

I (28m) have been dating my boyfriend (29m) for almost 4 years and we are planning on getting married soon. My family and I have had tension because of my relationship, as they didn’t want to accept me being gay. They eventually did, but I’ve still never fully forgiven them.

My boyfriend is usually the happiest person around, but his sister, who has always been his best friend, died last month. He has been a mess for the past month, but I completely understand and I’ve been there for him. He was there for me when my cat died, and considering his grief is most likely 100 times worse due to losing his sister who he’s known his whole life, I want to be there for him completely.

My family was at my house a couple of days ago. I thought it was going well, until they started saying how my boyfriend was being dramatic over all this and that I should break up with him. I started seeing red. Thankfully my boyfriend wasn’t there to hear that but I was furious. I asked them if they were being serious and they said they were. I told them to get the hell out of my house and to leave me alone until they were ready to apologize.

They stormed out and everyone is pissed at me but I honestly don’t care. All I’m focused on right now is being there for my boyfriend. That said, I do kind of feel like an asshole because they claimed it was for my sake but i’m not sure. Am I the asshole?