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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Skosh69 on 2023-07-29 19:20:14.

Yesterday my boyfriend took me on a surprise date to a nice area around a beach. Which he planned VERY last minute.

He picked me flowers, we saw lots of seals (my favorite animal,) he bought me two beautiful bracelets we saw on the way to find a restaurant, and walked a simple trail with a nice view. I realized he had made NO reservation before hand. Keep in mind we’re in a very popular tourist beach where a lot of the restaurants are PACKED and require wait lists. But out of pure luck we found a restaurant that took us right in with no wait.

We got seated. We were there for maybe five minutes when he decided he wanted to go and use the restroom. I asked if he could wait till after we ordered, but he insisted he had to go right that second and told me his order. I ordered what he asked which was a burger. Waitress asked how I wanted it done and I said medium. When he got back I let him know how I got it cooked to make sure it was fine with him. He blew up and went on a whole rant about how disgusting it was because of the “uncooked bacteria” and told me that I was stupid for ordering it that way. I apologized and told him I could call the waitress back and ask her to cook it more. He refused and insisted it was fine with a smile.

I watched him eat while making faces, which irritated me because he was obviously making them to get a reaction out of me. I ignored him and he then asked if I wanted to switch plates. I switched and finished the WHOLE burger just to prove a point.

While we were waiting for the check a man came up to the table striking a conversation with my boyfriend. That whole time he was extremely close to me and making me uncomfortable. This man was obviously eyeing me and my boyfriend didn’t do anything about it. I’m very shy and didn’t want to interact with him so I just kept my eyes forward and tried my best not to acknowledge him. Unfortunately the man stuck his hand in front of my face and said hi. I looked at his hand and out of pure fear of being attacked I quickly shook it and said hi back. He stared me down and ended up walking away. My boyfriend said nothing and we left.

After we left he proceeded to ask why I shook his hand and got upset AT ME for interacting with the man. I apologized trying my best to avoid confrontation.

We went to a car meet and I asked if he could hand me my lipstick last minute. He got upset because I asked last minute apparently, while also trying to look good for other men. He started a whole big fight about everything I did “wrong” that day. And while we were yelling at each other he said “Just stop being yourself” which sent me into tears and he tried to take it back and say he meant the “bad parts.” He told me to stop crying because I’m not a toddler. I just quietly apologized but sent him a long text in the morning asking to talk about it today when he gets back from work.

So was I the one who ruined the date?