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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/symere_woods2 on 2023-07-30 00:44:25.

This story involves mainly me, my older brother whom passed away, and his at the time girlfriend. Me and my brother were always very close, after all we grew up together and did all the brotherly things, such as beating up the neigbourhood kids, and getting beat up together just as much, we rode bikes, swam in lakes and rivers, fished, camped, gamed, did everything together. As we grew older, looking for meaning and place in the world, I quickly realized I wanted to be a doctor. I was 4 years younger than my brother, and got into med school right after graduating.

i graduated med school then did 2 years of “residency”. I made little money and worked much. After those 2 years, I got a job at a large hospital and had a salary of 300K a year. My first year I took care of basic expenses and set a baseline. My brother and I went on some open houses together, and we found an apartment, with perfect location, and perfect interior. 1 con, price. Now, It wouldn’t bankrupt me, but it would be somewhat more than reasonable. Well, my brother convinced me to splurge and so I did.

A few years pass by. My brother graduates, and starts residency. He’s had a girlfriend whom I know and respect for at least 2 years at this point. All in all a great woman, and a good person. So my brother was more inclined to buy a home. He wanted to buy his home already in his first year of residency. The problem was that he wasnt making much at that particular time. His girlfriend was studying to be a dentist, and couldnt work full time either (perfectly understandable). I thought this was the perfect opportunity, to repay his favour. They spent time finding a home they liked. Amazing house, but very expensive, and my brother doesnt make a lot at this point, so i Co-opt the mortgage. No biggie he’d do the same for me 10 times over, and besides he wont ask me to pay a cent. He had money saved up, so he took care of the bill, my job was essentially to convince the bank.

At this time his girlfriend dropped out of school. She now wanted to be a housewife. i would too if i could live in that house for free. My brother passed away before he finished his 1st year of residency. Now, Im paying the mortgage for his house, in which his girlfriend resides. I can manage, but barely. I’ve had to downgrade or stop with most of my hobbies, I dont save a dollar and my investments are at a halt. It bothers me alot. I want to sell that house, free up my money and be comfortable again.

Ive explained this to her and asked her to move out. She refuses. any time i press it she breaks into tears, and accuses me of hating her, or not loving my brother as if my hearts not broken. I offered to pay 3k monthly for rent, groceries or any other expenses she has to make her life easier. I want to help her for my brothers sake and because i genuinly care. I offered to pay her tuition out of my own pocket IF she goes back to dental school but she refuses. AITA, and what would you do?