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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ThrowawayAcct0075 on 2023-07-30 01:21:34.

Throwaway account for obvious reasons.

I have an adult son, lovely daughter-in-law, and two grandchildren, as well as a devoted wife. Generally, we get along well.

Every 2-3 years, my daughter-in-law’s family takes their (adult) children and grandchildren on a week-long vacation. A cruise, a beach trip, Disney World, whatever. Obviously, this includes my son and his family.

The problem is, my wife is increasingly jealous that we also don’t have these vacations with our son/grandchildren. When we broached the subject with him, he mentioned that he and his wife don’t have much disposable income, and can only attend these vacations because his in-laws pay.

While we can afford it, we adamantly believe that we should not have to pay for an adult child’s vacation.

We decided to invite them on a cruise for next year. My son says that they can not afford it that soon, but maybe in 2-3 years. Of course, they already have a plan to vacation with my daughter-in-law’s parents next year.

My wife is devastated.

I suggested that they bow out of the in-law trip next year, and instead take some money out of their line of credit to join us, as we aren’t getting any younger.

My son got upset and said he shouldn’t have to go into debt for a vacation, and that maybe we could do a weekend getaway instead.

My wife and I kind of lost it and said that we are tired of being treated like second-class citizens.

AITA for what I suggested? It’s only about 5,000 for the cruise for all 4 of them - we are not expecting anything crazy.