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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Alone-Panic-3630 on 2023-07-30 17:10:46.

I’ll be quick, my f26 fiance m32 is blind. We don’t disagree a lot except, he always gets bothered whenever I eat different food from what he’s eating when we go out. Like, if we’re having dinner out and I order else, he’d instantly get upset and accuse me of treating him as less than when I just have different taste in foods.I’d just eat what he eats to keep the peace (I eat out alone as alternative) but since he clearly doesn’t trust me, he’d randomly touch my plate to see if I’m having the same dish. This caused huge arguments between us and I told him to stop doing it and he said he would.

We went out to eat nights ago, and I ordered the same dish he ordered. When the food arrived, he looked somewhat uncomfortable. I asked what was wrong and he refused to say, and before I could even grab the fork he extended his arm and his hand touched the food on my plate. He moved quickly and started excussing what he did saying he “just wanted to make sure…” but I lost it on him, I felt so grossed out and there was no way I could eat the food after he touched it. He tried to get me to drop it saying i shouldn’t be grossed out by his hand, and that I overreacted etc… but I grabbed his plate and told him that I was taking it as my donner. He at first asked meto be “rational” and give the plate back but I refused. An argument ensued and we had a fight. He then ended up leaving started spam texting me accusing me of being bitter, pathetic and childish, and robbing his dinner. He went to stay with his friend who picked him up and his friend sided with him saying I was in the wrong. Even went as far as to say that I was abusing my fiance and financially controlling him when I pointed out that I was the one who paid for the food.

The problem is magnified now with him wanting an apology and me refusing to give him one. My parents think I should have more patience and that this is just typical “love spats” between us but I’m not sure.

Was I the ah with how I handled this?

EDIT I want to point out that this is not the case when we ate at home, he has no issue with me eating different food. But in public it’s a different story.