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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Lotsof_Rhubarb on 2023-07-30 20:37:09.

I (21f) have been dating my boyfriend (26m) for three years now, and we have a son who is 13 months old. Not too long ago, my son said his first word and I decided that now might be a good time for me to teach him Polish as in addition to English.

For the past days, I have been speaking in Polish to him. I know he won’t learn it straight away, but in a few years, he might be fluent.

However, when my boyfriend saw me saying Polish words to him, he said that I should stop. I asked him why, and he said it would be unfair if we could communicate with each other in a language he couldn’t understand. He even said Polish wasn’t a useful language to learn, like Spanish or French.

I acknowledged this, but I have continued to do it even though my boyfriend has asked me to stop. I feel guilty, but I do want to share my first language with my child. I also feel hurt that he doesn’t care about my language.

AITA?