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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Disastrous-Hope-2916 on 2023-07-30 20:46:33.

Homer Simpson said it best. “Aw, I have three kids and no money. Why can’t I have no kids and three money?”

I (F29) am married and plan on having kids in the next decade. But I come from a family that is in a weird “cult” that thinks children are the end all and be all.

I am the only girl in seven siblings and I have twenty nieces and nephews.

I hated growing up like this and I promised myself I wouldn’t have kids until I was secure in my career and marriage.

My five oldest brothers are all tradesmen and make good livings to support their growing families.

My youngest brother however had a chance to get out. He went ROTC and everything was going great. Until he came home one Christmas and my family started shitting on him for not starting a family.

Well now he has three kids and no money. His wife stays home and watches the kids.

My parents approached me about helping him out since I “have more money than I need”.

I don’t though. I am saving up for my family.

My parents only see that my husband and I are living in a big house and drive new cars and take awesome vacations.

They cannot compute that the reason I can do this is because I don’t have kids yet.

I told them that I would contribute an equal amount as they and my other brothers did. I wouldn’t match it. I would just put in as much the person who put in the least.

They said I was being petty and parsimonious. I said that I thought my offer was fair but that I would withdraw it if they didn’t agree.

They are mad at me and several of my brothers called to give me hell for hoarding my blessings.

I may have been rude when I said that I had always been taught that children were the greatest blessing do they were all better off than I was.