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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/EssentialLemonz on 2023-07-31 00:51:18.

I (23F) have PTSD. My biggest triggers are loud noises and babies/children crying. This can make it difficult going out sometimes without my partner (25F) to reassure me.

My sister (31F) has 5 kids, the youngest being 5 months old and is quiet the crier. My sister makes a habit of making me and my partner a surprise babysitter or visiting without warning first because she knows I don’t go out often because of my PTSD so assumes I never have plans.

I love that my sister wants to see me and I love my nieces and nephews, but what I don’t love is their screaming and crying- especially in my own home. If it’s in her own home, I have no right to complain- but recently I’ve had an issue with them visiting.

My fiancé has put her foot down many of times and has sent them back home with the excuse ‘we are busy’ and that if they want us to babysit then tell us in advance instead of expecting us to babysit because she wants a spontaneous weekend away with her boyfriend.

Yesterday, me and my fiancé were going to go and watch a movie at around 10pm (less children at night), then we heard a knock on the door. She peeped out the window and there was my sister, dressed up with 4 kids and a baby in her arms. I answered the door and she asked me if I could take the kids, to which I informed her me and my fiancé were going to watch a film. She became angry and shouted ‘I’m a full time Mother! I deserve a break sometimes!’ Before I could say something my fiancé came up behind me and pulled me gently out the way before saying to my sister. ‘If you’re a full time Mum does that make us full time Mums too? We seem to see your kids more than they see their dad’s. Instead of finding a substitute father through us, how about you stop having kids with deadbeats. She has enough to deal with than you playing pass the parcel with your kids every weekend!’ Before she slammed the door.

I received a wave of texts from my sister calling my fiancé all the names under the sun, I had enough. I told her I no longer want her or the kids in my house, I then received hateful texts from my Mum telling me I crossed the line and my sister deserved a break. AITA?