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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Winter-Guide-5977 on 2023-07-31 01:36:16.

I (24 F) am being pressed with having to move in with my mother in law. I own a house with my husband and two toddler daughters. My MIL has recently gotten sober after drinking heavily most of my husbands life and lost her job (ICU nurse) due to showing up to work drunk. Since losing her job and bouncing around trying to find a stable job she has been harping on us to sell our house and move in once she kicks out her still alcoholic boyfriend. She says that she cannot afford her house any more and wants us to move in so we can help her with bills. She’s also confessed since getting sober that she’s been wanting to “get rid of” her boyfriend and she had the same feelings about her ex husband when they were married. Getting sober is a hard job and I commend her for that. Is it wrong for me not to want to have to give up my freedoms of my house living space just to help her with bills!? I just now am getting along with her. She used to be very problematic, everytime she would drink she would text and call us at all hours of the night being very belligerent. One night she even was harassing my mom because our daughter is being “neglected” (which isn’t true at all). I would confide in her about my PPD and every chance she would get she would throw it in my face. Am I the asshole for not wanting to move in with my mother in law because I feel it would be a somewhat toxic and stressful living situation?

Thank you