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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Mission-Ad-5264 on 2023-07-31 17:08:29.

My wife was pregnant with our first child. We weren’t telling anyone yet because it was early.

My mom was over at our house and noticed some obvious clues of pregnancy.

She asked about it and we were honest. We also asked her to please respect our wishes and not go telling people because it was early in the pregnancy and we wanted time to ourselves to absorb it.

The pregnancy was unplanned but welcome.

My mom lasted two weeks before she started posting about becoming a grandmother.

We hadn’t told her yet we lost the baby.

I was still feeling dead inside when I saw her post so I just commented that “Elise miscarried a week ago”.

I guess it took about an hour for my mom to see the comment and delete her post.

We have been getting condolences, which we don’t want, and my mom has been getting crapped on by friends and family for being so insensitive.

She is mad at me for not telling her that we had lost her grandchild.

I think I was an asshole because I replied that I didn’t want her blabbing my family’s personal life again.

She is crying and my dad says that I have every right to be upset but that I could have been nicer.

I’m just so angry right now I don’t know how to feel.

AITA?