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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/No-Sky8671 on 2023-07-31 23:55:49.

I(42m) have 3 children from my previous marriage, Olly (17m), Laila (15f), and Sena ( 12m).

My current wife (38f) also has three children Keira (21f), Isla (19f), and Makayla (14f).

My wife and I have been officially together for 6 years, and married for 4, but have known each other for 10 years. Keira and Isla have the same father, who is actively involved in their lives. However, Makayla’s father is not at all involved and has actively denied her. Since she was 3 I’ve tried to be a father figure to her. Not sure if I am.

I always take my sons to go fishing on the weekends and do other activities that Laila is not interested in. I also do other things with all of the kids together, but never really a father-daughter day with just Laila.

I do have a weak heart for Laila, I’ve never really told her no. So when she asked if we could have a father-daughter trip to Paris, I of course said yes. I told my wife and she was fine with it. I think Laila told Makayla about the trip to Paris. Makayla asked if she could also go on the trip with us. Laila said no, It’s just a trip for my dad and me. Makayla then begged if she could also be on the trip, Laila said no and told her to go on a trip with her own father. Makayla was of course upset and went to her room to cry. My wife heard her and went to ask what happened.

Of course, my wife is also upset and wants me to take Makayla on the trip as well. I asked Laila if she was okay with Makayla going with us and she said no absolutely not. Laila also said that Isla and Keira also go on a trip with their father and no one is upset, as well as her brothers going on a trip with just me and that isn’t a problem. I kind of agree with Laila on that. My wife on the other hand will be very upset if I don’t take Makayla on the trip with us.

I asked my sister for advice and she said that it is unfair to exclude Makayla and that Laila can not always have her way. That I should take both or not have a trip at all. I’ve also asked my ex-wife what she thought about the situation and she said that our kids should be my first priority and that it’s unfair to Laila. I’m thinking of only taking Laila to Paris for a father-daughter trip. I’m not sure if that will make me the asshole, but it seems that no matter what I do someone will be upset. AITA?