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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/BabySakuraFlower on 2023-08-01 10:16:43.

I 26 female and my brother 29 male are having heated conversations about money. For the story, my brother’s name will be changed to Matt.

Matt and I are 3 years apart and don’t share the same dad. Matt’s dad left when he was 10 months old and my dad came around when matt was 18 month. My dad raised him, and eventually, my dad wanted to adopt Matt and for that, he had to ask permission from Matt’s biological dad. Matt’s dad refused on the belief that my dad wanted to change Matt’s last name.

Sadly when we were teenagers my dad passed away, and by having non-married parents and being an only child for the law, I inherited my dad’s house, a flat and a piece of land.

My dad himself was an only child so when his mom passed away I inherited half of my grandparent’s assets. 21 months ago my grandpa passed away and I inherited the rest of my grandparent’s assets, meaning that I have another house, lands for agriculture and money in a bank account.

That being said my sibling started to talk to me about the money and how I should invest it and what to do with it. What I did was pay for my studies with it, and thanks to that I could graduate this May, I also used it to repair my childhood house so my mom will stop living in a non-sain house. My house was nice to me but after remodelling and changing the inside features I notice that we were living in a poor environment. Anyways I used this money to pay for my studies which I need to continue for another two years. I also now have to fix and repair the other house, while doing this I give money to my brother when he has a hard time and life is difficult for him.

My brother is a freelancer, so more often than I like, he is struggling. When he struggles he does odd jobs which help him finish the month and pay for his needs as apparently his main job is not enough.

Following this you have to know that in the past 21 months he made me start crypto which to this date I’m still not comfortable using so my account is set so he would stop pestering me. I also tried to create a business with him so I’d put all my money into it and buy a flat with my brother so he could have a home, the plan was that I would leave the business so he would be in charge. The bank refuse to let us have a loan, so the project failed. Anyway, now he explains that he is in dire need of money, that I don’t understand his struggles because he always stresses to pay his rent and needs and I don’t. Because of that, he wants me to give him a third of what I have in my account because this money comes from my dad and my dad raised him so he is as much legit as me.

So AITA for not wanting to give my brother a third of what I have in my bank account but instead wants to help him here and there?