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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Dazzling_Mastodon898 on 2023-08-01 15:06:58.

I met my friend, a woman (26), in college seven years ago, and we’ve been best friends for five years. She’s gone through a lot in her life, and I’ve always cared for her. In 2021, during the pandemic, she fell sick, and I looked after her every day after work, even assisting her with basic tasks. However, when I got COVID-19 in 2022 and asked her to check on my sick father, she refused, claiming she had low immunity, although she was taking care of the guy she was dating who also had COVID-19.

After my recovery, she emotionally blackmailed me into meeting her, only to ask for help in selecting a gift for the same guy she was dating during my illness. When she moved to Mumbai for work, she avoided me until the last moment, and when I couldn’t meet her due to a work commitment, she accused me of being a bad friend. Later, I visited her in Mumbai to talk, but she ignored me and embarrassed me in front of her friends.

She eventually returned to Kolkata after losing her job in Mumbai, and I helped her by getting her work from my freelance clients. On my birthday, she didn’t attend my party and gifted me a bottle of rum despite knowing my father’s alcoholism issues, which led to a disastrous incident. When I share my problems, she belittles them and tries to one-up me with her own issues.

During a party, she didn’t defend me when another girl was gossiping about me; instead, she agreed with the gossip. Moreover, when the guy she was seeing left her, she blamed me for not stopping her from being with him, even though I had tried to advise her.

Now, she’s facing a legal case with a bank for not paying her education loan EMIs and is asking for my help. As a freelancer, I work long hours to save money, and I don’t have the funds she needs. Considering the toxicity and emotional strain she has put me through, I am considering cutting ties with her.